Self discovery

You can live in such a way that you always see what you don't have, what you didn't manage to do today, what you didn't manage to achieve, thinking by using what if a lot, making no compromise with the circumstances, only using black white colours. This attitude leads to a never ending feeling of unsatisfaction, blaming others for not achieving the goals you set, feeling tension constantly, frustration and having negative emotions, poisoning others around you. And other attitude assumes that you can change your mindset to focus on something completely different and get the best out of it. It means flexibility, acceptance resulting positive attitude. In your little world, you are the one who has to create, you should never depend on people who live with in order to feel good. You have to feel good in your own skin. Sure, you can blame people around you for not pleasing you, but all you'll achieve is that if others can't please you, they'll feel guilty and feel bad too. And for sure that is not what you want or at least not intentionally. A particularly sensitive area is the family. Although family is a unit, family members are separate individuals with separate personalities, interests, and schedules. Of course, while the children are little, they move together with the parents, where symbiosis is a necessity for survival, parents determine the movement. As children grow, different personalities and interests begin to pull family members in different directions. It's hard to get used to the fact that unity no longer manifests itself in the fact that we do not dance listening the same music, dancing on it and that is normal. It's time to rediscover ourselves, because before we decided to start a family, we were all single, independent individuals who didn't want to conform to anyone. So how do we expect our growing children to adapt to us? Just as our children detach from us, we also need to detach from them and not allow our mental flexibility to go with the flexibility of our joints. Of course, it takes time to get used to, but let our children detach from us and take care of their lives in such a way that it is not that suffocating. Open up for the limitless possibilities, turn attention elsewhere and discover ourselves again! This is especially true for parents of adolescent children. They are not the only ones entering a different life stage but so are we. Let's discover our new self and open up to it!